Couples Counseling

 

Usually couples counseling is viewed as something couples do when they have sprung a leak in their love boat.  Often couples enter counseling when their heads are barely above water and their boat has hit bottom.  It’s pretty hard to salvage at this point, but not impossible.  This is usually why many people report that couples counseling didn’t save their relationship, but rather, made it clear that what they had was gone and the therapist just seemed to give last rites over the body.

Here at Ahimsa, we work with couples as though they are each other’s best teacher.  We acknowledge that there is a lot of learning going on in the sacred space between a couple.  There is also a lot of teaching, but usually the teacher is unconscious of his or her role as they are often teaching their partner to handle reactions to painful emotions in a new way.  We often unknowingly represent a parent or difficult person from our partner’s past.  The good news is we are giving our partner an opportunity to respond to the old pain in a new way, ‘to get it right’ this time and end self-created suffering.  The bad news is, they usually don’t know it and so you get blasted with the same emotional baggage their old teacher received, maybe even more. 

If you are experiencing conflict or distance in your relationship,now would be a good time to come in. There will be a lot of learning going on.  You will:

  1. •Learn to create a unified front.

  2. •Learn effective communication skills. 

  3. •Learn to identify emotions and mental states before projecting them on your partner. 

  4. •Learn about the unconscious patterns you typically choose to feed when in relationship. 

  5. •Learn how your unconscious emotional patterns collude with your partner’s to create painful cycles of behavior. 

  6. •Learn to create a relationship mission statement that you can feed in the moment with your good intentions rather than feeding your fears around relationship.

  7. •Learn to let go of relationship as an answer to your suffering and instead use it as a teacher.

ahimsa counseling services

600 First Avenue, Suite 531   Seattle, WA  98104      therapist@ahimsacounseling.org

  206-240-5833

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